I basically faded over ten years ago - I stopped going to meetings when I moved out of my parents home. I have managed to maintain a semblance of a relationship with them in this time by mainly ignoring Mom's preaching to me. This was the first time that I really voiced my opinions on the whole JW issue.
As for the definition of apostates, isn't that just typical of the JW mindset? They will never give credit to people having made informed decisions about leaving the org... no they had to have been sinners who were disciplined and now are bitter... Its so ridiculous! What she is not getting is that I am unashamedly an apostate, and I was never reproved or DF'd - I just left!
I guess that by saying "dont close the door", my mom was saying that if I were to DA myself, they will shun me completely so lets keep things as they are. I dont really to DA myself anyway since I havent been to a meeting in so long, I dont really consider myself a witness anyway!
I am a little irritated that Mom was not even willing to look at the UN letter - like that in itself would be apostacy. I dont really hold out hope of changing their minds at any point in the future - they are quite zealous.
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